Sixteen years ago today after taking care of my Mother - In - Law around the clock for a week, she left this life to enter into Heaven's gates. It was a labor of love because she and I had a relationship that had grown into one of love and admiration over the years. I did not realize at the time but her death was the beginning of the end of the family I knew and loved.
D loved his mother with great dedication, joy and tremendous pain. Her failing health for the five years prior to her death made his connection to her all the more important. We would praise GOD for the good times and cry in the difficult.
When D's Dad was in the hospital, I was the one who took time off work to take care of his Mom. For years after her death I took care of D's Dad during and after surgeries, illnesses and hospitalizations. I did these because I believed we were family and for no other reason.
After D's death, I became another tragedy of his death. The family I once belonged to closed ranks around each other and I became separated from that family. A family that I had been a part of for over 25 years.
Birthday's and holidays come and go. I am no longer the hostess of such events, nor am I
invited to any of these events. Am I bitter.....at times, but I realize now that I was always just an outsider accepted only for the duration of my sweet D's life.
Was it their grief at the death of D that made it easier to shut me out or was it my own grief that prevented me from continuing to put myself in their lives?
So today I will remember my sweet times with D's Mom, D and his Dad. Thankful for the blessings, the love, the fun and the sadness of it all.
Today I am stronger, more determined and more at peace with the death of the family that once was. Today I realize that I as long as I am a child of HIS family I have no need for anything else.
Sunday, February 28, 2016
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
The Lost Art of the Thank You Note
It's simple really, someone gives you a gift, you say "Thank You." Someone sends you a gift you send a "Thank You" card or note. It doesn't have to be extravagant, it doesn't have to be wordy, but it does have to occur.
My next door neighbor has the art of "thank you" down pat. She sends me the sweetest notes in the mail just for a recipe, a gesture, a book. She never lets any kindness go unrewarded and for that I thank her.
Today most kids and adults alike do not bother to send thank you notes. It is a lost art. Brides and grooms never send thank you cards for gifts received, graduates ignore the money or gifts they were given and children never write thank you for money received.
Not me, I was raised by a mother who found importance in thanking those who gift to you. We always had to sit down after Christmas and write thank you's for the gifts we had received and she would mail them for us.
Bo and Jill were taught the same. It wasn't an easy task to accomplish, it was a chore but one they had to do for years. At times I have made Ian and Carter Dean write thank you notes for gifts from my friends.
Sometimes I forgot I admit and it makes me mad when I see someone that I should have sent a thank you to and I have to apologize profusely for my failure.
The hardest thank you's I have ever written were the ones for the kindness, flowers, food etc. that we received after Bo and Lori were killed as well as after D died. Those took months, but it was important to me to express my deep gratitude to those who had and still love me enough to reach out in anyway.
Times are changing people say, but manners shouldn't. So, your Christmas, Birthday and Happy's may be changing too. Let me just say "Thank You" for not expecting another gift from some of us. Our gift giving manners are changing too.
I hope you enjoy, and remember your previous gifts fondly because they probably won't be arriving this year.
My next door neighbor has the art of "thank you" down pat. She sends me the sweetest notes in the mail just for a recipe, a gesture, a book. She never lets any kindness go unrewarded and for that I thank her.
Today most kids and adults alike do not bother to send thank you notes. It is a lost art. Brides and grooms never send thank you cards for gifts received, graduates ignore the money or gifts they were given and children never write thank you for money received.
Not me, I was raised by a mother who found importance in thanking those who gift to you. We always had to sit down after Christmas and write thank you's for the gifts we had received and she would mail them for us.
Bo and Jill were taught the same. It wasn't an easy task to accomplish, it was a chore but one they had to do for years. At times I have made Ian and Carter Dean write thank you notes for gifts from my friends.
Sometimes I forgot I admit and it makes me mad when I see someone that I should have sent a thank you to and I have to apologize profusely for my failure.
The hardest thank you's I have ever written were the ones for the kindness, flowers, food etc. that we received after Bo and Lori were killed as well as after D died. Those took months, but it was important to me to express my deep gratitude to those who had and still love me enough to reach out in anyway.
Times are changing people say, but manners shouldn't. So, your Christmas, Birthday and Happy's may be changing too. Let me just say "Thank You" for not expecting another gift from some of us. Our gift giving manners are changing too.
I hope you enjoy, and remember your previous gifts fondly because they probably won't be arriving this year.
Thank You !
Saturday, February 6, 2016
No Justice For Maurice Isaiah Torres !
My blood pressure was probably off the charts this morning when I read that the attorney's for the Torres want to postpone their trial for capital murder because they haven't been able to talk to people in California and El Salvador about the Torres.
What the HECK ? These so called parents raped, tortured and evidently killed this beautiful child after chronic child abuse. They should have no rights. No rights for free legal representation, no rights for delays in trial and due process. They should have not rights and go straight to the gates of hell. I know that final judgement is not mine and I pray for forgiveness for my feelings about this believe me.
There is no room in my world for these type of people. Yes, we live in a free nation, with the assumption of innocent until proven guilty. They were proven guilty by the evidence already before us. I am sick that this child suffered repeatedly and these people got a thrill out of it.
Who cares what people in California and El Salvador have to say about them. I for one don't. Our legal system is so bogged down by this kind of crap that those who deserve a trial and representation, those falsely accused go punished without a chance to prove their innocence because there is no one to represent them.
What would happen if the evil and the guilty would just take responsibility for their actions? We have raised a society and live in a country that is always easier to blame someone else that admit "I Did It !".
A person walks into a bank points a gun and attempts to rob them. They are captured without harm to anyone. Instead of everyone saying "You're guilty" they "Plead Not Guilty" and spend days, weeks, months and years incarcerated before they then go to trial only to be postponed, delayed etc.
Was there any doubt they were guilty "NO !!!" Take responsibility and admit you did it. Take your punishment and learn from it.
Does everyone has the ability to change and be rehabilitated. I don't know, what I do know is if we
don't reverse some of this nonsense, quit being a land of entitlement and grow up, the criminals will continue to gain more freedoms, liberties and rights than the innocent.
What the HECK ? These so called parents raped, tortured and evidently killed this beautiful child after chronic child abuse. They should have no rights. No rights for free legal representation, no rights for delays in trial and due process. They should have not rights and go straight to the gates of hell. I know that final judgement is not mine and I pray for forgiveness for my feelings about this believe me.
There is no room in my world for these type of people. Yes, we live in a free nation, with the assumption of innocent until proven guilty. They were proven guilty by the evidence already before us. I am sick that this child suffered repeatedly and these people got a thrill out of it.
Who cares what people in California and El Salvador have to say about them. I for one don't. Our legal system is so bogged down by this kind of crap that those who deserve a trial and representation, those falsely accused go punished without a chance to prove their innocence because there is no one to represent them.
What would happen if the evil and the guilty would just take responsibility for their actions? We have raised a society and live in a country that is always easier to blame someone else that admit "I Did It !".
A person walks into a bank points a gun and attempts to rob them. They are captured without harm to anyone. Instead of everyone saying "You're guilty" they "Plead Not Guilty" and spend days, weeks, months and years incarcerated before they then go to trial only to be postponed, delayed etc.
Was there any doubt they were guilty "NO !!!" Take responsibility and admit you did it. Take your punishment and learn from it.
Does everyone has the ability to change and be rehabilitated. I don't know, what I do know is if we
don't reverse some of this nonsense, quit being a land of entitlement and grow up, the criminals will continue to gain more freedoms, liberties and rights than the innocent.
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